The phone rings at an odd hour. Then, after answering, your heart sinks: A loved one has just passed away unexpectedly.
No matter the circumstances, the sudden passing of a loved one is jarring and profoundly disorienting. Emotions run high, and sometimes confusion sets in.
But if you’re the one responsible for the deceased’s funeral services, you’ll need to act decisively while still honoring their faith and final wishes. Here’s a guide to navigating this difficult time.
1. What to Do First: Who to Contact
First things first: If the authorities and/or emergency services haven’t already been contacted, now is the time to do so. It’s a necessary legal step. Next, contact your trusted cemetery companies in San Pablo.
2. Understanding and Managing Grief
No one grieves the same, as it’s a deeply personal and varied experience. That said, it’s important to find time to allow yourself (and others) to have the space to grieve in your own way. Cry. Share memories. Seek solitude. Do what you can to process your emotions. And don’t forget to seek support from family, friends, counselors, and/or your church, as they can prove invaluable during this time. Remember, grief doesn’t follow a set timeline or pattern.
3. Navigating Legal and Administrative Tasks
Several legal and administrative tasks still need your attention. That may include, but isn’t necessarily limited to, obtaining a death certificate, which is needed due to legal processes. You will need multiple copies of the death certificate. You may also be in charge of the deceased’s estate, which could include their finances and property. You’ll likely need legal assistance for that, so you may need to hire a lawyer with experience in estate matters. Then check with your funeral home, as they will likely assist with the obituary.
4. Planning the Funeral or Memorial Service
Ideally, the funeral and/or memorial service should reflect the deceased’s wishes, which could include a cremation or a traditional burial. Would they want you to personalize the service and/or the casket or urn? What readings would they want? What music? Those are all important considerations, as they honor their legacy.
5. Memorializing and self-care
Finding a way to memorialize the deceased is part of the healing process, whether it’s through a physical monument, a charitable act, or a personal ritual. Not to be forgotten, though, is taking care of yourself. Grieving is emotionally taxing, so make sure you find time to rest, eat well, and allow yourself the time to heal.
To learn more contact St. Joseph Cemetery & Funeral Center today.
